Within Ourselves!
As Les Brown would say to us all, “we all have greatness within us”.
We need to travel down that road to find the place where your love tank shrunk in size and now, not having the capacity to hold what it needs for all your greatness. It shrunk so much that you’ve forgot your own dreams, desires and aspirations. That place where you abandoned yourself and your own needs were not met and you had gotten mad at other people for not meeting your needs. So much you hated being around yourself knowing it was wrong to expect so much out of others and not take-action yourself. How sad is that?
I was that person. This person I’m talking about was me. Each year I had less expectations of myself and more from others. I would ask myself, “who am I?” Not worthy and not present to my own life, my body or my spirit. I was just existing making a living, but no life. I lost my own inner beauty in the years of making others beautiful. What was it that I needed to learn?
I needed to learn how too fill up my own love tank and not give all of myself away, but what I really learned on my journey was that I didn’t know how to receive love. I was cold when it came time for a hug and sometimes I still catch myself today. I would move in with an awkward move or be standoffish so a hug wouldn’t happen. It was never practiced at home growing up and now I know the importance of a hug, I sit and wonder is it too late to learn. Are you comfortable hugging? Are you a hugger?
My belief is self-love is healing and self-love has been my gift and it can be yours as well.
This month I am filling up my love tank. Each day I am practicing self-love. Hmm… did I say practicing self-love? Yes, that’s what I learned on this journey. We need to practice self-love each day. We need daily self-love rituals. If we don’t give our self time each day, our self-love tank will decrease in size and it will become to small to receive love and compliments. Our relationships will suffer and you will feel lonely, unworthy and not enough. It’s a no brainer that we must give ourselves love!
I had to learn what self-love really was and do you know what I discovered? Many of us really don’t know what it means to love ourselves. We are spending so much time caring and doing for others that we forget our own needs as a human being. For some of us, we were told that its selfish to love ourselves, but now we are discovering that we should love ourselves for others to truly love us or else we are always in conflict.
How did I get here, not knowing what self love really meant? I’m only discovering now that I need to practice self-love daily and I am in my forties! But what I have discovered on my journey is that self love is internal and external at the same time. It’s funny how my tag line for my new business is, “Where inner beauty meets outer beauty” and now I understand exactly what I meant.
Self love is our foundation and we cannot live if our heart doesn’t pump, but we also cannot live to our greatness if our love tank for ourselves is not full. We have the opportunity with daily practice to expand our love tank, but I honestly do know from the days of not loving myself that when our tank shrinks it cannot expand to receive compliments from others, love from family and friends and no abundance can be received our tank is to small. But, with daily practice we can expand our love tank and create room for gratitude, love, abundance, joy, acceptance and all the awesome things that fills us up. We will have so much self-love in our tank that our tank will expand and our love will flow out into others and return just like a boomerang! You will receive love and everything you ever desired and you will want to share your love story.
We are all beautiful, we have a love story within us, but we need to believe in our greatness. As Les Brown says, “we all have greatness within us”
You got the power!
Angela